"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind won't matter and those who matter won't mind"
The feeling of inner-peace is the greatest gift of all. There is no price on being able to sleep at night, to be able to drown out fear, doubt, and sadness, and to replace it with a feeling of well-being, safety, and joy. I don’t know anyone (myself included) who hasn’t felt despair over something.
Why is it that some days you feel as if nothing is going your way, you can’t think your way out of your problems and you don’t understand yourself, and other days it feels as if you are on top of the world, no one can beat you down, you are so happy you can hardly breathe, you are unstoppable.
Allow me to introduce you to your “Inner Super-Hero.”
Who is that you ask?
It is that indescribable feeling we get when we are being who we authentically are, who we were meant to be, and when we are doing what we really want to be doing, with who we want to be doing it with.
Our inner super hero disappears when we are trying to force ourselves to “suck it up” (if anyone ever uses that term with me it is cause for immediate dismissal, it is SO negative)
Sucking it up is agreeing to be anyone but who you really are. It is conceding that “this is as good as it gets,” or knowing that our boundaries are becoming weak.
Don’t you dare suck it up! Change it! Or make steps to change it. And, until you can change it, make peace with it by changing the way you look at it, so it won’t eat you alive. As challenging as it is, focusing on the positive, or a plan, or a goal, will take you much farther than focusing on what you don’t want.
For the sake of an example, let me use Caitlyn (The woman formerly know as Bruce) Jenner as an example. This girl has probably not experienced much inner-peace in her entire life. I imagine now that she has transitioned, she has a great deal more of it than she imagined she would. She knows that the friends and family who support and continue to friend her into her new life will love her for who she really is. When we love people, we encourage authenticity, and if we can’t or won’t do that, then we should leave them alone and not hurt them.
Regardless of whatever anyone thinks, believes, or how they judge, Caitlyn is probably okay with it all, because she is living her authentic life. She knows that people are afraid of what they do not understand, and people judge, because they can.
Being different is supposed to be a good thing, yet people are afraid of people who are different. Change frightens the life out of people, and fear robs our inner-peace, so you begin to see why peace eludes most folks.
Flexibility and patience is the key to happiness, yet many of us are neither. We are often uptight, black and white thinkers, who stumble through life following our hearts, emotions, and doctrine instead of our intelligence and humanity.
As a Christian, watching the news and hearing people representing the Christian faith bashing Caitlyn Jenner makes me wonder.
If they are going to quote scripture, then quote this one: “Judge not, lest ye be judged.” It’s my favorite because it makes me understand that anything that doesn’t involve me, is just plain none of my business. And I get to be free of negativity, free of anger, free of judgement of how another person chooses to live their life, free of fear, and free to love.
That sounds an awful like inner-peace to me ;)
Love For Sure,